After deciding it is the right time to start searching for a more ecologically friendly house, my partner and I sit down together and make a list of what we hope for in a home.
- One-level living that can be made wheelchair accessible (because my partner can’t do a lot of steps, and we have friends who use wheelchairs, and universal design makes sense for a house we want to get older in.)
- South facing roof that is solar energy suitable
- Able to be retrofitted with more insulation and air-source heat pumps
- Location closer to Portland and public transportation, near some sort of village center
- Quiet street
- An area safe for lesbians and people of color
- Privacy in the back yard
- About a quarter-acre lot, smaller than where we are now, but still room for permaculture gardening. Some parts shady with trees, some parts sunny, and flat enough for easy access. We want to get rid of lawn to mow, and have other kinds of plantings instead.
- And, perhaps counter to our village center idea, a location close to woods and critters?
- About 1200 square feet of house (this number to be adapted as we actually look at houses and see what the spaces feel like.)
- Two bedrooms plus some office space and guest space
- Living area that can hold ten people or so for gathering together
- Some extra space, like a basement
- Wood floors or equivalent–no carpet, no mold, no smokers. (We have allergies. If there is carpet, plan to replace with wood floors.)
- Big windows, lots of light
- Two-car garage (because of Maine winters, and for now we need two cars)
- Laundry on first floor
- Mudroom area
- Fireplace or wood stove, more for the feeling of a hearth than for heat
- No vinyl siding (That stuff is really bad for the environment! Watch the documentary Blue Vinyl!)
- Electric appliances
Okay, that’s our list, that’s our desire. And of course, we want a sound, well-built house that will last. The other part of the equation is that we want the price to be enough less than our current house so we can afford to do the retrofits and add solar energy without taking on more debt. Our goal is to own it debt-free before we come to retirement, and to have the ongoing taxes and utilities and maintenance costs affordable to us on a low retirement income.
There is a strange magic to finding a new home. There are practical steps we need to take, but then, it all depends on what is out there. And what will emerge in the next day or week or month. I have moved dozens of times in my life, and it always brings up a lot of anxiety for me. Will we find a home that works for us? Will we recognize it when we see it? What is essential on our list, and where can we compromise? It took us four months to find our current home when we moved here to Maine. Will it take that long for this process? If we find a house we like, will we be able to bid for it successfully? My partner has her own list of fears.
In this magic of finding a new home, we are placing our desires up against our fears. That is why it feels important to me to name our very specific desires for a new home, and also to acknowledge and honor our fears. I know that magic works that way. But there is another deeper movement going on as well. It comes to mind again as I look at houses-for-sale online. In the listings, they don’t mention the orientation of the house, so I try to figure it out by looking closely at the maps. It is discouraging how few houses have a south-facing roof.
Then I remember that we are trying to do something new with this move–we are trying to re-orient our home environment into harmony with all life on earth. The current built environment is oriented around cheap oil and other fossil fuels. It can’t last. We are trying to take our own small steps closer to a whole new way of living that is about beauty and sustainability and a future for the generations yet to be born. There is a great Earth energy that is beneath our feet guiding our way down this path.
It says to me, “Remember to embrace the process. Enjoy the whole journey, right now! You don’t have to wait until everything is ‘settled.’ Keep taking small steps until you are ready to leap. Until the time comes when it is clear. You do not have to rush. Keep holding hands with the ones you love.”
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I am applying your “remember to embrace the process” section to my search for a second dog. Wait for it… the time will be right, the dog will be right, and I hope I will know and be ready to leap *then,* and not a moment before!
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Thaanks for posting this